What the Bible Says about Love Marriage & Sex by David Jeremiah

Author:David Jeremiah [JEREMIAH, DAVID]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: REL012050
ISBN: 9781455511433
Publisher: FaithWords
Published: 2012-04-10T04:00:00+00:00

PREPARING FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY

Song of Solomon 4:1-7

Your Wife Is Prepared by What You Say. Verses one through seven of chapter four tell us about the preparation for intimacy. There is so much for us to learn here about the differences between men and women, and how we think and feel.

Solomon says to Shulamith, “Behold, you are fair, my love! Behold, you are fair!” (4:1). Then we peek ahead a few verses to find another declaration from the new husband: “You are all fair, my love, and there is no spot in you” (verse 7).

Men are designed by God in such a way that, when the time comes, they are more than ready to take care of business. Unfortunately, men tend not to realize that the wife is not as emotionally prepared. The husband is eager and excited; the wife is hesitant and needs the grace of time. She is designed in such a way that requires preparation, including mental stimulation. Her mind and imagination are the important trigger points, and a man needs to use language to motivate her thoughts.

Herein lies the problem for the proverbial man of few words. He needs a few good ones right now! He needs to choose his words wisely and thoughtfully. These things may not play to his innate gifts and skills, but for the love of his beautiful wife, he needs to give his best.

Solomon, of course, had no problems when it came to eloquence. He wrote some of the most beautiful and compelling verses of the Old Testament. He had, “the wisdom of Solomon.” He was the very template for this kind of thing. But if we men can’t duplicate his poetry, we can follow his example. He knows the way to a woman’s heart is through her ears.

He speaks in simple words about her beauty. If you think it’s necessary to memorize the love sonnets of Shakespeare, you’re wrong. Notice that Solomon tells his bride she is beautiful. He does so in very simple language, but initially does it twice. Then in verse 7, he adds a third declaration of her beauty and adds that he finds her perfect in every way. None of this is beyond the simple eloquence available to any loving husband.

In Hebrew literature, when something is said three times the intended effect is strong and intense. Therefore the words alone may not capture the power of Solomon’s feelings and expression. He is saying, “You are unbelievably lovely! You are an eleven on a scale of ten!” Then he tells her that her beauty is flawless—perfect in every way.

It’s true, of course, that Eve was the last perfect woman; we can be certain that Shulamith was no more “perfect” in the literal sense than any other woman. The honeymoon isn’t a time for being overly literal, is it? It’s not a time for a critique by an artist—just the opinion from a loving husband. And that’s precisely what Solomon proceeds to do. He declares her perfection, in his eyes, and then gives a detailed tour guide.

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